To Be Less Judgemental

Religion & Faith * by Abby Collins

Abby Collins is a TESOL major with a deep interest in ministry. She is a freshman at Roberts Wesleyan College and a dedicated hammock enthusiast.

What would Paul say about modern Christian attitudes?

Our generation is in a constant state of comparison. Comparing what we have, what we look like, and even our faith. Among many Christians, I believe that we often find ourselves comparing our faith with others. We get jealous so quickly if we see someone else taking a huge step in their faith journey, and we feel that “God isn’t using us”. Truth be told, God is always using us, every one of us serves in his kingdom to some capacity. So why are we so quick to tear other people down for doing work that is ultimately glorifying God? In 1 Thessalonians 5:11 Paul writes to the church and he says “ Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing” (NIV). Paul is implying that that church is already encouraging each other, and he asks them to continue doing so. My question for you is, if Paul were to write that letter to our church today, would it still be worded that way? I think that Paul would have to tell us to encourage others, not continue to.

If Paul were to write that letter to our church today, would it still be worded that way? I think that Paul would have to tell us to encourage others.


As brothers and sisters in Christ we should not be intimidating or be people to tear each other down. I’ve been told that when people first meet me that I am extremely intimidating. I don’t know why, but I used to think that this was pretty funny because once you get to know me, I am the complete opposite of intimidating. However, I really started to think about it and why I think people feel so intimidated by me. I have a pretty strong resting face because I sometimes zone out or just stare off into space blankly. However, I think I can also come off as judgmental. I will be honest and say that I am a pretty judgmental person, most of the time it’s because I want what’s best for people. It’s not my right to be judgmental of another person though. It’s none of our rights. We need to find a balance of conviction and kindness. Having the feeling of conviction is important because it calls us out on things we may be doing wrong, but we shouldn’t rely on the feeling of conviction to be strong Christians. Our Christianity should be rooted in our faith, and out of that will come kindness.


If we are rooted in faith we will start to see ourselves looking more and more like Jesus. Having faith in Jesus is important because it not only helps us to grow closer to God, it helps us to move further away from the sinful habits we all develop. Have you ever noticed if you take the time to sit and read your Bible consistently for maybe a month or two, your life could look radically different? During quarantine I grew stronger in my faith because I felt I finally had the time to dive in deeper in the word. I constantly read my Bible everyday through April, and when I stopped reading for a little while, I noticed that I was getting back into old habits that had a sinful pattern. I’m not saying that if you don’t read your Bible everyday you aren’t a faithful Christian. Rather, if you aren’t constantly diving into the word to grow in understanding, you aren’t going to grow in your faith.

It’s not my right to be judgemental of another person. It’s none of our rights. We need to find a balance of conviction and kindness.

Having faith in Jesus will not only help us to grow in a relationship with him, but it will also help us to not be so judgmental or compare ourselves to one another. Build our faith in Christ to then build a relationship with Him.